Pressure? What Pressure?

There's so much pressure out there. Peer pressure to do drugs and stuff. But pressure from your lover is what can really matter. But can your lover really pressure you?

To put it simply: of course. They may use your love as a weapon, or they may be subtle about it. The big pressure in a relationship is, of course, sex. To simplify it further: don't let them pressure you. No matter how much they tell you they love you, only have sex when you're ready. People are tricked into doing things they don't want to do by their partners. It's not love; it's pressure. If your boyfriend is pestering you to have sex all the time, does he really love you? Wouldn't he respect your wishes when you say no?
If your partner really, truly loves you, they will wait until you're ready. And you should do the same for them. Don't pressure them into having sex with you if they don't want to. I know you're thinking "but my boyfriend/girlfriend loves me!" Okay. They love you. Then they won't try to get you to have sex with them if you're not ready. And don't let yourself think you're ready, just because you're scared they'll break up with you.
If they break up with you because you won't give them sex, then really, were they worth it in the first place?
No.
Your true lover will respect your wishes if you say "no."

~J*~

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