I'm Wondering If...

I'm wondering if I should break up with my boyfriend/girlfriend....

So, should you?


The first step to take here is talk to them. Talk, talk, TALK. All relationships are built on three BIG factors: fidelity, trust, and COMMUNICATION. If something is bothering you about your partner, you need to TALK IT OUT. That way, there's less of a chance of things going down hill, because you know what's bugging who. And if you know, you can either fix it... or end it.
If you've tried talking - or the other half of the relationship is unwilling to talk - it is best to end it. Or at least, take a break. Personally, I am not a firm believer of these mythical "breaks," but sometimes they work for people. Sometimes you just need some time apart to sort things out. But just what if... what if you're not happy. You're just wondering, "should I end the relationship? I'm not happy. I don't see this going anywhere."
Then yes.
End it.
But a warning: Don't be nasty about it. Try to keep things on decent terms. Which goes back to one of my previous blogs, about life after break-ups.
So:
Step one - Talk. If this has already been done, or is impossible, skip to step three.
Step two - Try to work on it together.
Step three - Tell the person you need a "break." If the other half disagrees, skip to step five.
Step four - Have some time seperate. Remain faithful, but do not talk to each other. It's called a "break" for a reason.
Step five - End it on peaceful terms (but only if necessary)

That's basically it. But most of all - and this is a really cliched line, so be ready - follow your heart. Do what that giant pumping organ tells you to do. For men, that's your heart, not that other organ that... Oh, nevermind.

~J*~

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