So let's say "Someone" likes "Guy 1." But "Guy 1" has gotten back with his ex, and he's very happy. Then "Guy 2" comes along, and there is a very real possibility that he will ask "Someone" out. Is it wrong for "Someone" to say yes, even though she likes "Guy 2," because she still sort of likes "Guy 1?"
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We cannot spend our lives avoiding possibilities of real, healthy, amazing relationships because we lust after someone who is off-limits. The fact that some people are, in fact, off-limits, gives them more of an appeal. Your mom says no, you can't have a cookie. Because she says no, you want the cookie.
The whole it's-forbidden-so-you-want-it-more might play a factor here, or it might just simply be a case of liking someone. Whatever the case, you cannot let yourself pass up an opportunity with the second guy because you have feelings for the first. Not only is that not fair for "Guy 2," but that is not fair for yourself. Date "Guy 2." See how you really feel about him. And if you don't like him, then call it off. But don't automatically assume you won't like him because you still have feelings for "Guy 1." Sometimes something new is the best cure.
~J*~
Saturday, January 10, 2009
Monday, January 5, 2009
Resolutions
"I resolve to lose sixty pounds this year."
"I resolve to make a budget this year."
"I resolve to exercise more this year."
This year this year this year.
Why not now?
I have personally never understood the point of New Year's Resolutions. Why wait 365 days to start anew? I get that a new year is a "new page," but if you're unhappy with something, you shouldn't wait to change it. You should start to work on it as soon as you're unhappy with it. For example, a lot of people resolve to lose weight. So, you're not happy with your body. Why do you want to wait to change it? Start working on losing that weight right away. Start exercising, start eating better. Don't wait weeks and weeks for the next year to roll around - start now!!
Making that promise, that "resolution" to yourself is just setting yourself up to fail. You shouldn't do it because it's a new year, but because you want to. You're putting pressure on yourself by making yourself swear to do - or not do - something.
~J*~
"I resolve to make a budget this year."
"I resolve to exercise more this year."
This year this year this year.
Why not now?
I have personally never understood the point of New Year's Resolutions. Why wait 365 days to start anew? I get that a new year is a "new page," but if you're unhappy with something, you shouldn't wait to change it. You should start to work on it as soon as you're unhappy with it. For example, a lot of people resolve to lose weight. So, you're not happy with your body. Why do you want to wait to change it? Start working on losing that weight right away. Start exercising, start eating better. Don't wait weeks and weeks for the next year to roll around - start now!!
Making that promise, that "resolution" to yourself is just setting yourself up to fail. You shouldn't do it because it's a new year, but because you want to. You're putting pressure on yourself by making yourself swear to do - or not do - something.
~J*~
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