Let's Start With The Cliche...

How can you tell when your friends are lying to you?

Sorry to tell you, but unless you know your friend really well, you won't know if they're lying to you. Think poker: every poker player has a tell when they're bluffing. Unless you know this friend's "tell," then you won't know if they're lying.
But what if they're lying to you to make you feel better?
A good friend - a best friend - would never do this. They would tell you the truth flat out. They would fold when they thought it was necessary, and they would ante up when they want to. They know never to bluff with you. Your friends should have no reason to lie to you. They're supposed to be the ones who stick by you no matter what. They're supposed to tell you how it is, not lie to make you feel better.
Think of it like this: If you saw a pair of shoes that you really, really liked, but just wouldn't look right on you, would you want your friend to lie to you and say they looked good so you look like an idiot in public, or would you rather them tell you the truth? Granted, you might not listen to your friends when they tell you the truth - especially if it's something you don't want to hear. You really want that pair of shoes, and you don't care what your friend says - you're going to buy them and that's that.
Your good friends have your best interests at heart. They'll tell you the truth, even if it means sounding like a bitch. It's up to you whether or not you want to listen.

~J*~

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