The Plunge

My friend posted a blog earlier today about - generally speaking - love. More specifically, a certain boy she has feelings for. However, she is somewhat nervous - almost afraid - to pursue these feelings. She has been out of a relationship for a while now, yet is scared of the wounds that may be reopened if this potential relationship ends badly. The boy has just gotten out of a one year relationship, and claims to be over his ex, but... one can never be certain enough.
When entering a new relationship, should we be wary? Or should we just take the plunge?

People say to live in the moment, to just do things as instinct says. Do you eat the chocolate now, or save it for later? You want the satisfaction right then and there, not thinking about the consequences later. When it comes to relationships, does it really deviate from that sweet, velvety Ghiardelli chocolate bar? Should we just not think about the consequenses and dive in head first? As Natasha Bedingfield would say, should we "release our inhibitions?"
I'm going to stop asking rhetorical questions and using metaphors and give you my answer.
As always, it comes down to personal choice and, as the cliche goes, listening to what your heart tells you. Live in the moment, or assess the risks. Living in the moment provides more freedom, a wider variety of choices later on in the path you take. Living within risks is like living in a padded cell. It keeps you safe, but it can drive you insane because of the lack of freedom.
The winds of love blow past you. Do you follow the scent they carry to the source, or do you think first, and potentially let that scent die away? I know I say if it's meant to be, it will happen one day, and this is true. But it's up to you to decide when. You have to make the choice.
You don't want to be hurt again, because the pain from the end of your last relationship was so horrible. But will it really be that bad this time, if you know what to expect? Wouldn't that last relationship have made you stronger? Absolutely. How much stronger, I can't say. It varies from person to person. But you can live through it. Almost all pain is endurable, and the shattering pain of heartbreak is included.

~J*~

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