With People Like These, Who Needs Frenemies?

frenemy: n; The type of "friend" whose words or actions bring you down.(whether you realize it as intentional or not) The type of friend you ought to cut off but don't cuz...they're nice... good ...you've had good times with them. U know...they're good people that you can count on to bring you down again sometime in the near future.The friend you may or may not have cornered about their quicksand like ways and keep around because "its in the past"...and so was one minute ago. The person that will continue to bring you down until you demand better for yourself.

(Courtesy of urbandictionary.com)

So now we're all clear on what a frenemy is. Now take a look around at your circle of "friends." That definition sound like one of them? If so, what do you do?


Some people would argue that everyone needs at least one frenemy. This odd hybrid would balance us out by bringing us down when we are at our peak of happiness, to the point where we are self-centered, and maybe even egotistical.
But is it really necessary for someone to bring you down?

Frenemies are in everyone's circle of friends. Ninety-nine percent of people have at least one. And that one percent group of people thatdoesn't have a frenemy, they're a rare species of their own. Because these frenemies worm their way into our lives by seeming nice and well-meaning. And then they start to bring us down, and we may not even know they're doing it. It's not a matter of "balancing us out" when we're "too happy." It's a matter of the pure ecstacy they get out of bringing people - especially people close to them - down, down, down.
You, yourself, may be a "frenemy." Hell, you may not even know it. I have been to some people, and I'm not exactly happy about it. But those people are out of my life. Look around. Do you have someone that you call a friend, that insists on bringing you down every time you're in a state of euphoria? A friend that calls you names - and means them. I understand people joke around with their friends ("Oh, you bitch," "Oh, you whore") because I do it. But if someone says that to you, and you know that underneath it all, they mean those mean things, then get them out of your life. You don't need someone to sit there and tell you negative things. Your true friends will tell you when you're being self-centered or egotistical. You don't need someone to bring you down.

~J*~

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