Fustercluck

So let's say "Someone" likes "Guy 1." But "Guy 1" has gotten back with his ex, and he's very happy. Then "Guy 2" comes along, and there is a very real possibility that he will ask "Someone" out. Is it wrong for "Someone" to say yes, even though she likes "Guy 2," because she still sort of likes "Guy 1?"

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We cannot spend our lives avoiding possibilities of real, healthy, amazing relationships because we lust after someone who is off-limits. The fact that some people are, in fact, off-limits, gives them more of an appeal. Your mom says no, you can't have a cookie. Because she says no, you want the cookie.

The whole it's-forbidden-so-you-want-it-more might play a factor here, or it might just simply be a case of liking someone. Whatever the case, you cannot let yourself pass up an opportunity with the second guy because you have feelings for the first. Not only is that not fair for "Guy 2," but that is not fair for yourself. Date "Guy 2." See how you really feel about him. And if you don't like him, then call it off. But don't automatically assume you won't like him because you still have feelings for "Guy 1." Sometimes something new is the best cure.

~J*~